The Quirky Object of My Angel’s Obsession
My 11-year-old Angel, Juliana, has a fixation. A fixation is an intense focus or obsession. Some parents may view this as a bad thing, but experts say otherwise, and I’ve found Juliana’s obsession to be one of the most positive influences in her life.
Since she was about 1 year old, Juliana has had a special doll that has been responsible for bringing her joy and comfort. It’s a Playskool toy known as Busy Lil’ Ladybug. We shortened her name to Ladybug to make it more personable.
Sorry, not the cutest doll
Juliana first got Ladybug when she was an infant and we were her foster parents. It was a gift from her case manager. It wasn’t your typical-looking doll, and at $30 for a little stuffed animal, I thought it was quite pricey. But because it was a gift, I let her keep it. The two have been inseparable since then.
Everyone who knows Juliana well understands her attachment to this doll. Ladybug comes in several styles, but her real attraction is that she has a rattle inside. Juliana loves music and making noise, so the two are a match made in heaven.
When she first got Ladybug, I had no idea what a relevant fixture this doll would become in her life. She sleeps with Ladybug. Ladybug gets chewed and shaken to no end. You’ll also find her with Juliana as an eating companion. Wherever you find Juliana, Ladybug won’t be far away.
When I started to realize how attached Juliana was to Ladybug, I purchased an extra to make sure we had one for upstairs and one for downstairs. Well, that didn’t really help. Of course, one would get misplaced or left somewhere. So, the goal was to make sure that we always had a backup or two.
Years ago, I struggled with finding the best toys for Juliana. For a while, we did a lot of musical toys. Those worked well. But Juliana can be rough with toys. So, they would get damaged rather quickly. Thankfully, Ladybug has had a better fate. The doll is durable, so it holds up well to Juliana’s use.
Just give me Ladybug, please
Other than beach balls, no toy can hold a torch to Ladybug. I have seen Juliana sit and play with this toy for stretches of time well beyond an Angel’s typical attention span.
Juliana’s relationship with Ladybug has also served us well as a means to motivate Juliana. She has been quite useful for speech therapy. Ladybug was one of the first things that Juliana requested with her first augmentative and alternative communication device (AAC).
Since Angels are considered nonverbal, AAC gives them an option to communicate. So, with picture cards and her iPad, Juliana could ask for Ladybug as early as 3 years old.
Ladybug has also been a great reward for school. When Juliana does well on a task at school, she can get Ladybug as her treat. I remember when her teacher requested that I fill out a checklist of things to motivate Juliana and serve as a reward. I nixed most of the ideas on the list and sent a Ladybug to school.
Truly, I don’t know what we would do without Ladybug. This is also the reason why we have so many of them. The original Ladybug doll met her demise years ago. Although the Busy Lil’ Ladybug is no longer in production, I continue to replenish them.
Where there’s a will
I scour every website imaginable where I may find a Ladybug. Maybe someone at Playskool will read this column and bring her back so that Juliana will have a never-ending supply of this cherished friend.
If not for the internet, we would be Ladybug-less. They pop up on the oddest toy sites, and I buy them as soon as they appear. But for a year or so I panicked, because it seemed like the doll was disappearing. My goal is to keep her around as long as possible, so I’ve started somewhat of a ladybug inventory. Currently, we have seven ladybugs in circulation, with two more on the way for this Christmas.
Last year, when Juliana opened two of them as gifts, she couldn’t contain her excitement or shake them fast enough. What’s better than one Ladybug at Christmas? Two, of course.
It seems odd that a small toy could do so much for my daughter. However, Ladybug does bring a lot to the table. I’m grateful to have this odd little fixation in our lives. Music and companionship within arm’s reach? That’s not just a good toy — that’s practically a best friend.
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