Bracing myself to be the mom of a teenager with Angelman syndrome
Recognizing my Angel's accomplishments as she turns 13
It’s official. I am the mom of a teenager. Parenting a teen is one thing, but navigating life with a teenage Angel will involve next-level motherhood.
We celebrated my daughter Juliana’s 13th birthday this past weekend. Given all the good we’ve experienced in recent months, I’m cautiously optimistic that we won’t face too much of a blow to our already unpredictable norm.
Hormones and puberty have already taken Juliana by storm and held us hostage. Talk about an emotional roller coaster! We experienced similar behaviors when she was around 2 to 3 years old. Like most parents, we learn from the past and try to take the next stage in stride.
As Juliana has moved through different stages of development, some times have certainly been easier than others. Her infancy and toddler years were mind-boggling as we learned to comfortably live with the challenges of Angelman syndrome. Those difficulties included managing reflux and constipation.
Elementary school came with its challenges, but we had teachers and therapists who always went the extra mile. We were also fortunate to have not one, but two teachers who earned the distinction of teacher of the year. It’s like lightning struck twice.
Juliana, center, poses with two of her teachers on the last day of elementary school. (Photo by Sabrina L. Johnson)
The middle school transition has been what I expected and planned for. We feel fortunate that Juliana has landed in the care of another great team. In typical Angel fashion, she’s exhibiting separation anxiety during her morning transition, but once she’s greeted by someone from her classroom, the happiness magically returns.
Hitting her sweet spots
At school, she’s thriving in several areas. The software change on her augmentative and alternative communication device, or talker, went smoothly — so much so that her teacher asked for jelly beans because Juliana kept requesting them on her talker.
Academically, a recent progress report highlighted her 100% accuracy when making correct choices during a reading activity. This is a big deal because Juliana struggles when selecting from multiple options.
She’s also getting more in touch with her artistic side. For years, Juliana refused to hold a crayon. That’s not the case today. In December, her class had an art show, and in full gallery style, Juliana had her own display wall and table.
A collage of authentic scribbles make up Juliana’s gallery wall. (Photo by Sabrina L. Johnson)
Finally, there is the biggest consolation prize. This month, Juliana joined the elite ranks of middle school role models by receiving the honor of student of the month.
Juliana marvels at her student of the month sign for the front yard. (Photo by Sabrina L. Johnson)
All of her hard work is paying off. And it’s satisfying to see that it’s not just me as her mom recognizing her wonderful accomplishments.
Living with Angelman will always have its share of ups and downs. But in this early stage of adolescence, I’m proud of my Angel, who is finding her stride in a new school and a difficult season of emotional and physical development.
The next few years won’t be a cakewalk, but we sure are off to an amazing start.
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