Paying attention to self-care and well-being is key for caregivers
It's important not to lose one's individuality while providing lifelong care
When you’re a caregiver to someone with Angelman syndrome, making time for yourself seems like an impossibility. However, I consider this necessity an important part of my caregiver responsibilities. After all, if I don’t look out for my own well-being, I’ll burn out. And that will make the job of taking care of my 13-year-old Angel, Juliana, much more difficult.
In my mind, my well-being is a step up from self-care. I think of it as a way to ensure that I have interests in my life beyond work and taking care of my daughter. Living with Angelman syndrome comes with a lot of responsibilities. Angels also need lifelong care, so being a full-time caregiver is not like helping a sick child get well. I’m in this for the long haul, and there must be a part of my life that is still centered on who I am as an individual.
Making time
Setting myself up for a lifetime of helping means support from others and respite. But hobbies, fun, and activities I enjoy are also a part of my success formula. For many years, writing has been an outlet for me. Although I enjoy writing a lot, finding uninterrupted time for creating content can be tough. This past weekend was a good example. Juliana was recovering from the flu, so the week certainly came with extra difficulties and care. Still, I had deadlines to meet and needed time to focus. I wanted to be out of the house without any distractions.
So I headed off to one of my favorite places: the bookstore. As noisy as the environment was, it was still a place of refuge. I didn’t have to stop to redirect Juliana on her iPad or pause my writing for trips to the bathroom. Having those free moments when I need them makes me feel like I’ve won a prize. There is also a sense of normalcy in these snapshots of time. I’m just another mom sitting in the bookstore reading, writing, and having a latte.
From the earliest days of Juliana’s diagnosis, I knew that we would be facing a huge challenge for the rest of our lives. But I also decided early on that I didn’t want to get lost in the midst of all the caring. My well-being is important, too, and so are my interests. It takes me a lot longer to reach some of the goals I set for myself, but that’s OK. Even if it’s in small doses, having an outlet to feed my soul makes all the difference.
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